Overcoming betrayal
I’ve been slandered, turned against, had things I shared in confidence told to people, smeared, lied on, belittled, kicked while I was down, not only by strangers but by family! I can’t say that I wasn’t hurt when it happened, oh I was (and it was deep!); but I knew it was God strengthening me for another phase in my life, because if your family does this to you and you overcome it, there is absolutely nothing anyone out there can possibly do to you that you can’t overcome!
I learned a lot from my experience!
You simply can’t trust everyone! You have to be careful, I mean really careful with sharing things with people who don’t put God first! There are a lot of people out there who pretend that they know God, but God does not know them! Discernment is key!!!
Jealousy is an ugly trait! It consumes people without them even knowing they have been engulfed by it! People will simply be jealous of you and even hate you for overcoming adversity (and boy did I have a lot of them, BUT GOD!)
You can’t treat people the way they treated you! You simply just remove yourself! Your silence is truly golden! You will definitely want to defend yourself because that is an innate response, but in my situation, I chose silence! If I would’ve talked I would’ve said some hurtful things and things that would have shifted the blame on me! I’ve learned that when dealing with people who are keen on destroying you, it’s just best to let them do all the talking, sooner or later, they eventually start eating their words and those around them will start seeing them for who they really are! LET GOD FIGHT FOR YOU!!!!
You can forgive people without ever trusting them again! Don’t be bitter, but don’t be a fool either! People think just because you’ve forgiven someone things go back to the way they were… they don’t! Unless the person or people have shown you they have changed (which in most cases they haven’t) your trusting them is foolish, and the Bible warns us about being foolish! Trust is not an automatic result of forgiveness!!! People need to prove themselves trustworthy!
These are just some of my experiences I wanted to share. It has made me stronger, wiser and more gracious. I’m definitely not perfect, but I’m not who I once was either! When you start to realize who you are and Whose you are, other people just don’t phase you any more! You just simply deal with them accordingly while trying not step out of character, although sometimes you will and that’s ok! God is a loving and Gracious God! He knows when we’ve had enough, and He knows how weak our flesh can be!
“Maturity is walking away from people and situations that threaten your peace of mind, self respect, values, and self worth”-unknown
